Friday, June 17, 2011

Effects of Marriage After One Year

   I'm coming to the conclusion that either my life happenings are becoming none blog worthy or else I'm just getting used to married life and the things I use to blog about no longer seem that interesting so I don't even think to write about them. Both are sort of the same in the end.

   Perhaps also now that summer is upon us I'm faced with an incredibly relaxed schedule so there isn't a whole lot going on in my life. Which probably is so opposite for most other people. Typically summer picks up and there's tons to do but for me I'm done school, youth group is over for the summer and just most things that keep my busy are put to the side for a few months. Now I'm left with many free evenings with Jonathan. Often times I realize how much free time I have and honestly I'm not use to it. The more free time I have the more I realize how slightly off my social life is during the school seasons and then when summer roles around I`m met with occassional fleets of dissapointments that I seemed to have lost touch with people and friends. It`s almost a bit of a struggle trying to reconnect again with having a normal life.

   I often wonder if being a newly wed also played a role. For example after a class is over I go to work for 5 to 7 hours and then go home and worked on an assignment. By the end of the day I`d like to hang out with somebody but most times I`d rather just be with Jonathan and relax. Now that we have been married a year it`s not that the desire to be with him has depleated in any way but rather I`m noticing the effects on friendships or missed opportunities on making new friends. There's also a desire to make intentional connection with people, groups or put my time to good use helping out with something bigger than myself. Now of course I'm working on my own projects and side things but often times that just includes me in a tiny room sewing and no interaction with the outside world.

   Thankfully summer seems to be the season to redeem those missed and lost relationships with friends. *Crossing fingers*

   Did anybody else feel this way after a year of marriage? Or am I just being silly? I'm not complaining, rather just noticing the change in lifestyles.


Emme said...

I totally know what you mean. I felt the exact same way a few months ago and started reaching out to people more. I think it's pretty typical though because of course you're going to want to spend time with your husband the first year of your marriage to bond and get to know eachother better.

Christine Killam said...

Oh precious free time.... I might be inspired to write about how free time is something that I crave but takes so much organizing now to have! I know it seems opposite of your post, but enjoy the free time!!!

Unknown said...

ahhhhh i cant wait to get married , its going to be fun , at least i hope so lol. Sweet blog post.